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Wariena
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posted 20-03-2006 07:27 PM     Profile for Wariena   Author's Homepage   Email Wariena     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
Here's a riddle for you:
When is constructive criticism NOT constructive criticism? When it KNOWS what will upset the person on the recieving end but is said anyway.

I've told this person (who IS actually a friend I know in real life) countless times that they've made some remarks that step over the line for me, but he persists in making them anyway. Some of the time, they're valid points, but he says them as though he's trying to be funny and it makes me feel terrible about the work he's commenting on.

For example, on a piece I'd mentioned how pleased I was with, he said " Is he wearing.... cleavage? Why does his chest stick out like that?"
I know that this is because the character featuring in the picture was wearing a very losing jumper and moving in such a way that created folds across his chest. But, when he put it like that, I just felt any pride I had in that picture implode.

On another picture I said I'd been working on for a whole month and that I was ridiculously proud. His comment spawned from the fact that the character was sitting on a wall, and his tail was flopping over the other side of it. But instead of asking what exactly it was, he said-
"is that a crow's foot on his butt?"
THAT hurt.

I know I shouldn't take it to heart so much, but damnit! I've told him time and time again that the way he comments on my stuff upsets me and that he's just plain tactless sometimes, but like I said, the comments keep coming. I can't just block him- he sends floods of little pleading messages to my inbox, begging for forgiveness he doesn't deserve.

Arghhh. Ignore this, if you want. Like I said, it's just a rant.

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Crimson lunar
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posted 20-03-2006 07:49 PM     Profile for Crimson lunar   Email Crimson lunar     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
Draw your friend and when he starts to say something tell him it's him. Then see if he makes fun of it.
OR
Just ignore him thats what I do to some people.

Also is this person an artist?
Becuase if they are start citicizing there work.
If not tell them to shove it becuase it's better than anything they can do.

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evilone
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posted 20-03-2006 10:44 PM     Profile for evilone   Author's Homepage   Email evilone     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
ya when people do that to my stuff that REALLY peeves me off. Expecialy when they say,"eww pervert stop drawing boobs!" or," umm what are those?!*points to breasts*"

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Wariena
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posted 23-03-2006 04:52 PM     Profile for Wariena   Author's Homepage   Email Wariena     Send New Private Message   Edit/Delete Post   Reply With Quote
Nope, he's not an artist. I should totally try the direct approach- he'd probably hide. ><

And I totally get what you mean, evilone! I have to check no one's looking over my shoulder whenever I draw women at school 'cause they accuse me of drawing porn.

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